Relationships
5d
Geico
ThJjc
I've been living with my girlfriend for 4 months now n want to get married to her. (We never discussed exclusivity till now as we wanted to see how things go.) She's always doing nice things for me.. like she cooks n decorates home.. I want to settle down with her but we are on different page. I like her in every way but feel she is yet to see if I can be a good husband. But not sure how to prove that if she does not want to get exclusive. Finances are not a problem as we live in her grand fathers home n her mom sends a lot of grocery.. I pay almost all of other bills.. so she is saving all her salary n using me for bills. ( I sometimes pay for her clothes n shoes also.)She is busy with her friends n golf or interviews n hardly gets time for me.when I asked she said she wants to build a better future. I said so we should be building together but she said she is still not made a decision of marriage tograther.I am thinking of getting a ring but during start of relationship she mentioned about 5 carat ring her friend got n her tone indicated she wants something like that. she got higher taste in things n is too ambitious. I wanted to get 1 carat ring n she got herself a 1.5 carat ring last month for her birthday. It felt weird as I got a $400 zales necklace for her which she accepted with smile n appreciation but I never saw her wearing it.I do earn more than her but she said it's more on how one thoughtfilly spends n invest than just earning which defines the status.. n lifestyle..She is hot n gets asked a lot from men around her all the time.. unfortunately even being a nice, hardworking n smart men I receive rejections. She is into simps n goes on expensive dates with them n they help her out with things.I am so frustrated after 4 months of investment to build a relationship.(Why it's move in but no exclusivity: I started seeing her n wanted to move apartments n couldn't find anything.. she said she has big home n if I want I can move.. so I moved in.. soon had sex so it's kind of live in but never spoke about exclusivity till now.. initially I was also meeting other people.. she never asked for rent.. n I don't pay as she is neither the owner or has any mortgage.)
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anthony_
5d
6 months and still not exclusive? bruh, it’s a hard pass
Geico
ThJjc OP
5d
Actually bit less because initially we were just talking on phone n sometimes met, then decided to live in.
Tubi TV
litfaced
5d
She’s using you bro. Time to move on and find someone who is crazy about you. Don’t settle
Tubi TV
litfaced
5d
Wait you live together but are not exclusive?
Geico
ThJjc OP
5d
I started seeing her n wanted to move apartments n couldn't find anything.. she said she has big home n if I want I can move.. so I moved in.. soon had sex so it's kind of live in but never spoke about exclusivity till now.. initially I was also meeting other people..
Samsara
dukey1
5d
She’s not your girlfriend, she’s a girl whose house you live in and you have sex with. Your post is ridiculous. What is wrong with women these days…? Nothing. The problem is you. You are projecting your expectations and then resenting her for not meeting them when she never agreed to be your gf in the first place
Samsara
dukey1
5d
You live together but you’re not exclusive?
Geico
ThJjc OP
5d
I started seeing her n wanted to move apartments n couldn't find anything.. she said she has big home n if I want I can move.. so I moved in.. soon had sex so it's kind of live in but never spoke about exclusivity till now.. initially I was also meeting other people..
SAP
jwlk57sr
4d
Very stupid thing to do.
Amazon
wrk4funn
5d
She is using you for bills? The rent you save might be lower than the bills you pay on her behalf.
Geico
ThJjc OP
5d
It's mid west, not expensive California.. n also she is not paying any mortgage. N I am the one paying other bills. I mowed her lawn twice so we can at least sit there in summer..Infact she saves all her salary, as there is no rent, mom does her grocery n I pay the bills. The only thing she does is shopping n that too I pay sometimes.
Amazon
wrk4funn
4d
What she gets from her family is none of your business. It's hers. You getting a free share of it is still her contribution to you.
Apple
yKT24n
5d
😁 she is out of your league. And you are the biggest simp out of them all.
Geico
ThJjc OP
5d
Thanks Mr troll. Maybe I am the biggest simp, but even that's not enough.. n by the way what makes her out of my league.. there are thousands of women on dating app n maybe better than her..
Apple
yKT24n
5d
Sure, find another one then.
Walmart
princeveg
5d
Can the Blind crew hit it too?
Geico
ThJjc OP
5d
??
Amazon
WJ6g1W
4d
@walmart you wildin bro 😂
Amazon
dolun
5d
Life’s not hard you’re making it hard by trying to change a person set in their ways. Just enjoy it while it lasts. “Finances are not a problem” - they kinda are until you have your own play to stay.
White Cap
CPG CFO
4d
That’s what I was thinking.Finances aren’t a problem when you have a home and Tiffany necklace of white gold to match your work Patek.OP move on. You’re a roommate and marriage is serious sh*t. I love my wife but we created a life together. You’re only a few months in and not even formal or exclusive..
Ticketmaster
LIBDIL
4d
I’m sorry to say, but she is not into you man. Cut your losses.I cannot believe this person lacks awareness and foresight.
Geico
ThJjc OP
4d
But, she says she needs more time to see if I am being able to be a husband..
Lyft
DJ_SM
4d
OP, stop listening to what women say, and start looking at what they do. Actions speak louder than words.
wenjeucn2
4d
You’re so delusional. Is this your first “relationship”? It’s not even a relationship tbh and she’s not your girlfriend. You shouldn’t have moved in with her.
Microsoft
say_hi
4d
Women will always have the upper hand. Especially hot women. Looks like sex is just physical. I thought women need to feel for someone to have sex. What a sh*tshow.
White Cap
CPG CFO
4d
They don’t need to be emotional to sleep with someone lmao nor do they always have the advantage.
